Watch the way you talk…say only what helps, each word a gift. (Ephesians 4:29)
Do you remember the old school yard chant, “Sticks and stones will break my bones, but names will never hurt me?” Well, I beg to differ.
While working for the Healing Ministry, during inner healing sessions, I often saw the jagged scars from the names and words that have deeply cut people. In fact, those hurtful words had rooted themselves within the person and they had begun to identify themselves through the lens of those words.
One young woman came to the Healing Ministry struggling with an eating disorder. She had vivid memories, from her adolescence, of an adult neighbor calling her, “Thunder Thighs.” She began to become paranoid that her thighs were fat and that she was fat. This began a struggle with her body image that effected the majority of her young adult life. Those words took root inside of her and began to control her eating habits which eventually led to an eating disorder. The young woman worked with a trained Prayer Minister who led her through the healing of memories. Once she had forgiven the man who had said those cutting words, forgiven others who had made similar comments, and forgiven herself for believing the lies she was able to be healed from the eating disorder. She is now continuing the process of receiving healing of her self-image and embracing the truth that she is a “new creation in Christ.” (2 Corinthians 5:17a)
What comes out of our mouths has an impact on us and on others. We need to think about the words we speak and determine if they are weapons or gifts. In James 3 we are told, “A word out of your mouth may seem of no account, but it can accomplish nearly anything – or destroy it!” (MSG)
If you are carrying around a wound inflicted by names or words, Jesus wants to heal you. One of the ways to receive freedom from these wounds is through the healing of memories. In the Orlando area, both The Glennon House and The Inheritance House have trained Prayer Ministers who will walk beside you as you ask Jesus to “redeem the time” of when those names or words were spoken.
Fr. Al Durrance explained it this way, “Redeemed time is that time in which I am aware of Jesus being with me. He is always with me, but I am not always aware of His presence, and so I record the time as if He were not. It means inviting Jesus into every waking moment of our lives so we can know He is with us. It means re-recording our memories so they include His presence, because where He is, there is both peace and love.”
Prayer: Set a guard over my mouth, LORD; keep watch over the door of my lips. (Psalm 141:3) Please help me to only say and do things today that build people up not tear them down. Thank you. In Jesus’ Name.
originally written for ASHM
Until next time blessings and healing